. BTW I do get why you said it was ok to push. To be honest, although I try to teach DS how to solve conflicts without physical threats etc sometimes I wonder if I am teaching him how to live in some kind of ideal, pie in the sky society that doesn't actually exist.
Sorry you had a bad experience. Hope next time it is better!
I wonder the same thing too.
Look at that poor 14 year kid who picked up the agressor and body slammed him. That poor bloody kid was harrassed mercilessly for months before it ended this way. Him telling an adult about this wouldnt have made one iota of difference to the way he was being treated at school.
While his reaction was far from ideal, I would be willing to bet his agressors paid him a little more respect after that incident.
I also dont believe that this kid would have gone on to become a bully as a result of him defending himself, anymore that the bullies would have stopped being bullies, they will just go and find another victim.
Maybe it doesnt hurt to understand that if you hit someone, you may have to expect to get hit back?